That's a nice social boundary you've got there.
Would be a shame if something… happened to it.

Filled with inappropriate, deeply controversial, philosophical, and vulnerable inquiries, this deck of unusual questions will keep your night full of nervous laughter and your relationships somewhat distressing.

This is no casual icebreaker deck — use with caution.

If you had to fuck a cow, would you rather it be dead or alive?

What viewpoint is the most difficult for you to empathize with?

Are some human lives worth more than others?

Did your parents do a good job?

What experience, though difficult or painful, would you recommend to everyone?

Does "no" always really mean "no"?

What are the signs that someone really understands you, uniquely?

If everyone in the room were arranged on a spectrum of attractiveness, which two people would you be between?

What viewpoint is the most difficult for you to empathize with?

Are some human lives worth more than others?

Did your parents do a good job?

What difficult or painful experience would you recommend to everyone?

Does "no" always really mean "no"?

What are the signs that someone really understands you, uniquely?

If everyone in the room were arranged on a spectrum of attractiveness, which two people would you be between?

Not just any old questions - these juicy specimens were handpicked from a pool of thousands of questions after years of research and playtesting. The selection criteria favored questions most likely to:

• Split respondents answers 50/50
• Generate lengthy discussion
• Generate discomfort when answering
• Generate different answers depending on gender
• Require novel (as opposed to cached) thought in order to produce an answer

Why

Because questions are not answers, and by themselves have no agenda.

Because the scarier the question, the more it should be asked.

Because curiosity is the path to understanding others and ourselves.

COMING SOON

How

is just a suggestion, play however you want
please be sure to maintain adequate levels of compassion and/or alcohol

The Grid
For 2-10 people
Place a 5x5 grid of cards face-down on a table, each column consisting of a different color/category. Take turns drawing and answering one card at a time, Jeopardy!-style, until none remain.

Social Mixer
For 10+ people
Everyone draws one question. When you encounter someone, ask them your question, and they ask you theirs. After you both answer, trade questions, move along to a new partner, and repeat.

Askhole
For 3-6 people
Appoint an Askhole. The Askhole draws the same number of cards as there are people in the group (including the Askhole) and, after looking at them, distributes them face down, one per person. One by one, everyone flips their card and answers their question — Askhole included. Then choose a new Askhole and repeat!

Who

Aella

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Having dropped out of Calvinism, college, porn, and the system, man, Aella now follows her fashionable levels of autism straight into the warm, forgiving strategy of compulsively asking everyone the same question at parties.
She enjoys ballroom dancing, designing traffic intersections, and being the universe.

Hrothgar

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Having dropped out of Oxford, suburbia, and three jobs in a row, Hrothgar is now somehow managing to successfully fend off bureaucracy while stretching the horizons of the Askhole.
Hrothgar enjoys doing psychedelics, crossword puzzles, and anybody who likes Leonard Cohen.

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What

On Sale.

Askhole Travel Deck

125-card deck travel size

Orders expected to ship late August

$20.00
$20.00
Details

A 125-card pocket-sized deck featuring 5 categories:

Sex and Relationships: Questions that probe into our norms around sex and the way we handle love
Sad: A look into the vulnerable and painful parts of ourselves
Controversial: Dangerous questions that enter the grey areas of politics and cultural norms
Thoughtful: Philosophical thought experiments to challenge your frameworks
Personal: A look into your identity and meaningful hidden treasures from your life story

Dimensions
  • Length (in): 1.81
  • Height (in): 2.64
  • Width (in): 1.73